There is a myth that people who talk about suicide are not likely to attempt suicide. In fact, many people who attempt or complete suicide, often tell someone, either directly or indirectly. Most people do give some warning of potential suicide. You need to be alert to such warnings, to listen carefully to those around you who may be in crisis. You might think it is safer not to talk about suicide with someone you think is considering it. On the contrary, talking may be the only way to understand the person's intentions or to confirm your fears. A willingness to listen indicates that you care, that you are willing to help.

Often the person thinking about suicide is unsure about killing himself or herself and simply wants to escape a tough situation. A person may be more inclined to think of suicide or to take unnecessary risks when under the influence of drugs or alcohol. However, it is not easy to understand someone's motives for considering suicide since motives vary with individuals. Loss, especially loss of a relationship, is one of the most common factors preceding the suicide of a young person. Other types of loss and lack of hope for the future also often underlie thoughts of suicide.

Another myth is that once someone had attempted suicide, the person has put aside the idea and is no longer in danger. This is not true - as many as 80 per cent of all completed suicides occurred after previous attempts, and this is especially true for young people. Also, if someone who has been depressed suddenly seems happier, do not assume that the danger has passed. A person, having decided to end his or her life, may "feel better," may feel a sense of relief having made this decision.

As mentioned earlier, very few suicides occur without some form of warning. Sometimes this warning may be presented verbally and directly. The following statements are typical:

• "What's the use of going on."
• "You won't have to worry about me much longer."
• "Sometimes I think my parents would be happier if I'd never been born."
• "I just can't take it any more."
• "If I killed myself, then people would be sorry."
• "One of these days I'll do it; I'll take the pills and end it all."

Such statements cannot be taken lightly, and should be seen as possible signs of depression or thoughts of suicide.